1. A lot of people make comments because they want to be noticed.
2. Many want to just antagonize. Not necessarily because they want to, but because they want to be seen in a different light.
3. Many don't really mean what they say.
4. Many just want to shake tables. This obviously comes with the negatives and positives.
The bottom line is that; we all want to be heard. Observers will say, 'but I only observe.' No dear, even you who observe, when you write, you write because you want someone to hear (read) what you post. You might not care about the likes, but you care about your message being passed.
Truth is, you have the responsibility of telling yourself the truth and living the truth; which is you.
You are your reality. Others have the reality of you in their heads, but you can't live other peoples reality for you. You have to FIND YOU, BUILD YOU, and LIVE YOU.
Before you make a post or write a comment on any page, ask yourself; "Is this for eye service? Is this truly me? Is this me being positively relevant to the world?"
PS: The true you in a certain context might not be positive because of so many things, ranging from bias, nepotism, anger (because you have been directly affected) , culture, religion, etc. So before you post or comment, think of the people your comment could have a negative influence on.
Even me sef, I think before I comment because I might be boiling on an issue and speaking about it might cause an unnecessary controversy. Laslas, I'll read the comments, like and agree on what I agree on and disagree on what I disagree on, just within my space (my head). I must not drag people to have the same struggles I have.
We can't argue that everyone is a working progress. Please work on giving hope to the world, especially in this Covid-19 pandemic season, when everyone's voice is important.
PS TO READERS:
- Don't believe everything you read.
- Evaluate what goes into your mind. And
- Have the discipline of detaching your mind from accepting what won't make you better.
My Thoughts.
ALA O. WILCOX
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Sometimes, I can be a weirdo. I say so primarily because I don't seem to fully understand why I think the way I do. In short growing up in the church, a few of my very senior teachers felt I was a rebel, not because I rebelled but because I asked questions they didn't necessarily have answers to. I have changed o, because I've understood that asking some questions to the wrong people would bring bad results.
As a younger girl, I was really inquisitive and outspoken. I also read anything I came across asides mills and boom novels (I wasn't a lovey-dovey freak like the usual teenager.)🙄. I did read some, but those weren't my areas of interest. So, as a teenager, I read a lot of books that were totally opposing my belief system. I read books on crime and investigation, analytics, atheism, etc. I watched horror movies at night.🤦♀️ I would always ask myself questions of what the people entrapped would have done differently.
Believe me when I say I am one person that can have an unwavering mind. I got to find this out through my readings and thought processing afterward.
Anytime these things seemed to make sense, I always found myself asking questions that were deeper, and somehow I got answers. I sha know that instead of what I read to make me turn to an atheist, it makes me love Jesus some more, but it makes me ask and have to answer to questions that make Christians become a ridicule in our society and see how I can fix it for myself and in turn influence others to do the right thing.
I used to advise my seniors, so I was seen as smart, intelligent and all. And if I got into an argument with you, I will intelligently rubbish you, but you see that argument, I must win.
Fast forward to growing into a young lady in my mid twenties, I took a step back from always being in the spotlight, always asking questions (based on wanting people to know I know because somewhere at the back of my head i knew the answers directly or indirectly) , always having answers to peoples questions, etc. I stepped back to unlearn, listen and learn. I decided to process slowly and attentively.
Guess what?
It has helped me a whole lot to being the lady, people applaud me to be today. I know sometimes I overdo it, but I'm learning to share when I need to and be quiet when I need to.
I was never really always patient with people. I personally had to go through stages to make that part work. I was ever really not fully judgemental. It took a while to see things from the perspective of Jesus' instruction of loving people. I was never really always soft spoken and courteous. I always wanted to be, but I always got it wrong till I stepped back to observe.
The wisest man in the Bible Solomon also observed. Notice that he didn't go about asking questions to get knowledge. After God had granted him his request, he had the assignment of paying attention to get the understanding the normal man wouldn't because they were busy being busy. For instance, he observed the ants.
The whole world is telling you at this moment to "do, do, do" but you might just need to take a chill pill and observe instead. Observe others, observe systems, observe governments, observe brands, and most importantly, OBSERVE and DISCOVER YOU.
Many might not agree, but as usual, these are just MY THOUGHTS. It's not for everybody but a few.
Ala O. Wilcox.
James 1:19
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In the heat of the night,
Through the coolness of the trees,
I heard the whispers of the wind,
Which amplified the sounds of the teaching on the street of Arochukwu.
"It is not wrong to correct a sister"
One of the words the wind sent to me
Everyone was solemnly quiet as she spoke
I guess it's bible classes
If it were Sunday I'll say Sunday school
They were divided into 8 groups
But these words caught me
The lady on red stood out amongst all 8 teachers
Guess what?
It was through the short barricaded fence
I saw how apt they listened
But then again I was distracted
Distracted by a guy who seemed absent
I don't know if he was hungry or disturbed
But I know he was there but wasn't there
So much we can see within a few seconds
Only if we look
Like really look
Guess what?
It wouldn't be his fault if he was rude to a lady after this class session
Why you may ask?
Because he was absent
Present but absent
That's one of the decadence eating our society today
If we can be presently present
We would learn to unlearn
It's just a 5 minutes walk
Hence my inability to say more.
But,
I was present in my presence
Hence the lesson from my walk.
What is your lesson?
Are you presently present or presently absent in this covid-19 season?
Think about it.
My Thoughts.
written on 06-02-20 but relevant for the season.
Ala O. Wilcox
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