I really don't like to say I'm sorry.😏
Please wait! Before you judge me, read to the end.
I'm sorry is just three words coined into two words. Is it really a big deal to say it when I'm wrong? No, not at all. But must I say it? No too. It's my choice to or not to. Must I justify why I shouldn't say it? Not really, but I will, to you.
'I'm sorry' you will agree can be one of the shortest but most difficult words for some people to say, especially when they are wrong. Why wouldn't they honestly say sorry when they are at fault? I believe ego and pride, but you might have another or other opinions.
However, there are some people that find it very easy to say it, but they never mean it. In my opinion, I think most times that this set of people are crafty and deceitful. That might not be the case too.
I started with "I don't like to say I'm sorry" and I'm sure your question is why?
It's simply because I always think that I can do the right thing and receive a thank you, a smile or a warm gaze or hug rather than weaken my chances of building trust. It doesn't mean I should or can be perfect o. It means I should discipline myself enough to always do what is right and keep to my words which inturn makes me a person of integrity.
Many times, we use the availability of the word 'I'm sorry' as a yardstick to not be accountable. Sometimes we are even genuine about it, but in our subconscious, we have created an excuse of 'I'm sorry'.
I want to keep this as short as possible and I can't explain everything, but I believe that if you read, reread and brood on this, you will have a deeper understanding of why I really don't like to say 'I'm sorry'.
My Thoughts.
ALA O. WILCOX
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😂😂Let me give you gist of what this meme reminds me of.
So there was this guy that liked me and I was beginning to like back.😊 He was very real that I was attracted to his realness. I don't like people that form like they are perfect.
Rewind to a relationship I was in where the guy was always packaging to be what he was not, and was upset and felt disrespected when I said things like 'Hey love'. 😥Hey is supposed to be an informal way of saying 'hi'. Farting before him was gross and talking to him from the toilet was a no no. My dear, me sef I tired* for the matter.🤦♀️
Fast forward to the second official day of hangout with this uncle I was beginning to like, I farted.😰🤦♀️
See ehn, when my entire system is comfortable with you ehn, the system will just want to embarrass me for nothing.😓
It was telling him 'I like you bro', and the guy started laughing and said 'you cannot even form for me small sef'. I told him the world is too serious for me to be forming. The laughter we shared after that supposed embarrassing moment made me know we could be very good friends.
PS: My fart does not smell, it just wants to test you by embarrassing me.😂🤣
For those thinking that this is a love story, calm down. Na only likeness and friendship.😉🙄
Anyways, I hope I didn't fart too soon?😥 And please don't judge me.🤭
Ala O. Wilcox
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As we started sailing in the canoe, the sailor said "the water is 2.9m deep, there are crocodiles, tiger fish,..." that's when I stopped hearing o.
Any pim, and we fall into this water, I will be in a water that is as deep as the floor to ceiling of a house after its tiled and roofed. I also stand the danger of being eaten by a croco.... and/tiger ....🙆♀️ I sat as still as I could.😂
But then again, I came on this sail not to be scared but to do something different and do it differently. Guess what? I told the sailor to take me on a second trip, took a selfie and sat smiling and smelling nature.😊😊🥰
As you step into this week, things might look like they are pressing on you, it might seem like your year would not end well, it might also look like if you embark on this sail, you will fall into crocodiles and you stand a chance to be drowned or eaten, you might be unsure about the end. But, never forget that with the right thoughts, attitude and with God, everything will be fine. You will come out fine and unscathed from the midst of the storm.
Trust God.😊🙏
Smile.😊
Ala O. Wilcox
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As a young teenager, I loved packaging. Food was never my thing, no wonder my dad didn't miss sending Complant and my mum made sure I didn't miss taking it for 2 years. This was sha a digress to let you know I was once slim.😋 Let me jejely digress back.
So as someone who didn't like to eat and really loved good packaging, I had gotten small amount of likeness for pap/ogi/ (you can add you dialects rendition), and I loved it thick with lots of milk in it, preferably powdered and liquid milk.😉
My packaging intuition now made me use one of those icecream cups that takes a good amount of icecream to pour my pap in, and the creative part made me put it in the fridge for a few minutes (I really don't like very hot food), then I served myself with liquid peak milk using an icecream spoon to enjoy the sweetheart goodness.🤭
As I went out on the balcony on the first floor of my grand dad's house, I took some coconut biscuit alongside and sat on the long stool. I enjoyed my newly packaged papcream goodness like it was the best thing that was happening to me and I attracted interested neighbours who wanted to enjoy what I was enjoying.
Eventually, one of my friends had to climb the high stone seat slab that was made for seating on the ground floor and was trying to stretch his hands to reach the first floor to collect my papcream goodness thinking it was icecream. He was actually begging me for it, and I told him the original content, but he assumed I was lying and didn't want to share, so I had to go downstairs and let him take a spoon for him to believe me. 😂😄🤭
He was a little bit disappointed at me deceiving him but I had told him the truth and he refused to believe till he confirmed it for himself and that was not my gbese. Laslas, he loved my papcream goodness, so we had it together.😄 To me, this was a win win situation.
Why did I bring this my papcream goodness story?
There are negative and positive sides to it.
I realized that in my generation, so many people are so mesmerized with packaging that they have taken the wrong route by pretending to be what they are not, therefore losing their true identities and picking up an identity they have no background clue about.
But still, I see through this that my generation can package for the love of wanting to stand out and not lose their identity.
Whether we like it or not, we really do not want to share the worst of us out there, but in the midst of not sharing the worst, we can still be true to who we are.
Imagine my papcream goodness was not worth the stress of my friend trying to stretch himself to reach the first floor's balcony from the ground floor, and I lied that it was actual icecream? He would have termed me a fraud and he certainly would not believe anything I say after that day.
We should understand that whatever we do, whether packaging, preferring false image to others, living fake lives, being a person of integrity and living a life of humility, it has a ripple effect on others and on us. It gives people a perception of who we are and that perception either helps us grow or fail.
What ripple effect do you want served?
Think about it and make your choice today.
There are so many other lessons but I'll leave you to read, think through and share. As for me, I rest my case.
My Thoughts.
Ala O. Wilcox
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