I never want to end up like my mum or dad. Please take away that surprise look from your eyes, thank you.
I always wanted to be a lawyer as a younger girl. I loved talking reasonably especially for people, asking questions, proving rights and wrongs, standing up for those who can't and many more but that was not the case for me at the end. Why did I bring up what I wanted to be in this write-up? You know as we grow older, we get to realize and be thankful that a lot of things we wished for some years back, we never got them. That's not because it wasn't a good wish but because maturity has made us understand that we never needed them and if we had got them, perhaps, we wouldn't have learnt what we know or we wouldn't have had the experiences that made us better (this might not always be the case though).
I added a year yesterday, yes. I love the show of love and affection from everyone, yes and thank you somuch, but in all this, I try to see the differences or changes that have occurred within the previous year of my life.
Did I do things better? Did I make the right choices? Did I add value in all or few spheres of my life? How successful am I in the sense that how many lives have I influenced positively? Did I make good friends? Have I put away the acquaintances of mine that I think are not of good influence in my life (not in the judgemental way)? Am I a better lady than I was in the last year? How prepared am I for the man I will be spending the rest of my life with (do I have as much content as I would love him to have)? Have I derailed from my purpose? etc. This and many more questions are the things I perturb myself with because life "I think" is more than the celebrations, fun and well wishes.
I remember I started off with me not wanting to be like my parents and believe me, I am extremely serious about it.
My mum is my mum and my dad is my dad but there was never a time it was written anywhere that life was about being who our parents are(were) despite their background or achievements. Truth is even if my dad were Aliko Dangote or my mum Folorunso Alakija I would want to be different from them. I would love to do something different that'll make me stand out. They have their purpose and they were used as a tool to bring me (another tool) to earth to fulfill my purpose here.
This is a wakeup call to all of us who have gotten tied up with so much noise (work, social media, business, church activities, etc) from our generation. You came here for a reason, do not die with it.
FIND THAT REASON, LIVE THE REASON AND BECOME THE REASON OTHERS HAVE A REASON.
I rest my case.
My Thoughts.
©Ala O. Wilcox.
