LEAVE THAT ANT

Laying on my bed and gazing at the wall, I was thinking about how my day was going to go and how plans for the day had changed drastically eventually making me feel slightly clueless for about an hour. 

My thoughts were boggling between a delivery I was to make to a client, a new artisan who had tried so hard to piss me off, my upcoming Vlog that I hadn't spoken or worked on for about two weeks, my blog and the fact I had not even thought of writing for over a week, getting lyrics and sequence of many songs into my head and still find a way to rest in the process of doing all. While I was still in the thinking process, I saw a little creäture climbing upwards the wall, going back and forth like it was searching for something.

The first thought that crossed my mind as its movement distorted my thoughts was to kill it, but as I diverted into thinking of what the Ant might be searching for, I remembered what the Bible said about ants. It was a very short recess from my original thought to the supposed need of the Ant. King Solomon used the Ant as an example for humans as regards how hardworking they are and how smart they think and work towards a more comfortable future.
The dry season is the time they gather food and of course this is that season.
While I lay down working with my mind and disturbing my head over what would have been, the Ant is searching for its meal for the future rainy season (action).

Believe me, I juggled up my thoughts from what would be done to what I should do with the time I have now, especially towards my blog, Vlog and ways to limiting any artisan's wahala in the nearest future. 

This write-up is one of the benefits of learning from the ant. 

Anyways, I still killed the ant sha cause its movement was distorting my thoughts, but I beg you to please 'Leave That Ant'. There are too many lessons to learn from it while it's still living. 

I rest my case. 

My Thoughts. 

©Ala O. Wilcox. 

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STOP!

STOP! To start
STOP! To listen
STOP! To learn
STOP! To grow
STOP! STOP!! STOP!!!.

So many people have asked me, "Ala why did you stop being outspoken? Why did you stop being opinionated? Why did you stop speaking about everything you were known to speak about? Why did you get inactive in this area of your life that used to be hyperactive? "

Usually, I say nothing but deep down I knew the answer. I knew it was time for me to wind down, I knew it was time to STOP.

It was time for me to STOP talking, leading, speaking. It was time for me to STOP doing a lot of things without tangible results.

I had to STOP to start listening to myself. I had to STOP to start listening to God and my reasoning. I had to STOP to start listening to the world and its trends (you never know how to tackle a system if you do not know how the system operates).
I had to STOP to start listening to my elders, criticisms, my critics and the walls around me.

I had to LISTEN to learn.  I had to LISTEN to learn how to act and react in different situations. I had to LISTEN to learn to say the right things at the right time and know the right words so I can say the right things.
I had to LISTEN to learn to know when to encourage. I had to LISTEN to learn to know when to listen. I had to LISTEN to learn when to involve people or stories of others to encourage another.

I had to LISTEN to learn to GROW.
I had to LISTEN to learn to GROW in the area of my finances. To learn to GROW in the area of my spirituality. I had to learn to GROW in the area of loving my friends, making friends. I had to GROW in the area of socializing. GROW in the area of influence. GROW with respect to being the best God has called me to be. GROW in the area of fulfilling purpose. To GROW in everything that had to do with growing.

I am glad I STOPPED and I'm ready to GROW up again and again
I've learnt, and I'm still learning. I've listened, and I'm still listening. I have grown and I'm still growing.

Life is in stages. I have gotten to the stage where I think I can still STOP, LISTEN, LEARN, GROW through the process of listening, learning and growing.
I have grown to STOP, to listen. I have grown,  to STOP to learn. I have grown to STOP to grow and keep on growing.

STOP when you need to
STOP to START.

My Thoughts.

©Ala O. Wilcox

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TRIPLE L

The first day I set my eyes on her, I was astonished at her eloquence and bewildered by the authenticity of her expression. Her words felt like it came deep down from the inside, devoid of pretence and not just the normal recitation of the words written and memorized to say out to those willing to hear.

It was my utmost pleasure when she joined my group as the facilitator of my group for the break out session we had. Wow! Those were my words.

As time went on, she became a friend and a sister.

By the way, I always thought she had it all together is that she was always well composed, smiling and ready to counsel and advice anyone at any time she was called upon to. Even if she wasn’t called, she’ll still try to help.

As our journey went on as friends, I got to find out the worst; some people would think.

On that fateful day, with her beautiful peach coloured nails, I admired so much, the smoothness of her hands and fingers, the green dress I was looking forward to going and seize and the Ghana braids she had on that made her look flawless, she mentioned: “I am thirty-three years”.

In my mind, I was like, “what! What kind of early evening joke is this at this time of the year?” I said to her that she was joking because sincerely, I felt she was just pulling my legs. The grin that came on her face was a crucial answer to my impending question. Dumbfounded I was, I must say.

Learning of her past, I found out she wasn’t always this bold, courageous and daunting. She actually was the total horrible opposite of who I met a few months back.

She was timid, called a liability by everyone she came across, a people pleaser (we all know we can’t please everyone), was ridiculed by mothers as they told their daughters to stay far off from her.

That’s not all. When she started getting a grip of herself and found a boy that loved her for who she was and saw the best in her, he died and that became a depressing moment for her but gave her a cause to have a direction in life.

The ill that you come across in life can be used as a bridge to discovering who you really are, what you should be doing and where you should be or want to be.

The barrister who found herself outside the law has been through an ordeal in her short over thirty years here on earth and is ready to share with those approaching thirty and above thirty how to stay woke in this hyper expectant society. The ugly, the bad, and the good have all been tested.

Ibelema Greene of The Greene Company and Adult Toddler is who you should listen to if you have so much on the inside but can’t find a way to express them all, adding to the fact that so much is expected of you from almost everyone you come across and you are approaching or above thirty years.

Living Life Limitless; THE BIG 30’s, happening on the 3^rd of November, 2018 you have to attend.

Details of the event are on the picture attached.

©Ala O. Wilcox.