UNLEARN

It all began with the question what do I really need to write about. I searched deep and for days, there were lots of things on my mind but I couldn't zero in on which I really wanted to serve you with. I drafted and deleted a lot but I got little pointers from different people at different intervals but all related to one thing and that is.....wait for it. #widesmile.

So I juggled through the life of a few people I know, people I didn't really know but got to know a few things about because they sought my advice on some matters, myself, a few family members and The Bible to summarize what I've always had as a personal principle in life which is "Learn from everything no matter how irrelevant it may seem, you never know where it might be". I really do not have permission to write about another except the person gives me a go ahead but I can give a little snippet of me.

In this my small twenty something years in life on earth, I've been through a lot you never can imagine I could have. It can never be the worse and I know that everything happens for a reason hence my not being perturbed by them, people have gone through worst but among all has been; disappointment from people I trust, heartbreak from family and friends, betrayal from the supposed people you trust in church, scarcity, shattered dreams, missed opportunities because of our societal pattern of "man-know-man" and so many other reasons.
Truth is, yes, everyone somehow goes through all of this but at different intensities but most people break and give up on life as a result of this thing. Have you ever imagined, if Nelson Mandela gave up, will South Africa be free today? If Oprah Winfrey gave up will she be the worlds second most richest black woman? If Joyce Meyer gave up will she be one of those women who could preach hope to other women? if Steve Jobs gave up would Apple be existing? If Bill Gates gave up will Microsoft exist? If Folorunsho Alakija had given up will she have the amass wealth she has now to the point of being the world's third most richest black woman? etc, I guess not. They all had one thing in common and that was pushing their self to learn from what they were going or had gone through.

I had thought through my short time on earth and realized that despite what we go through we still have the right to make the choice of what to do about/with them. Life is really choice driven both in good and bad situations. I decided at a point in my life to look deeply into the happenings of my life and not sulk on the issue, I tell God to teach me what I need to learn from whatever situation it might be and help me be stronger and ready for whatever comes next. Guess what, it works and it makes you stronger.

Many people have asked me "Ala, how do you manage to keep it together?" This is my secret. I see the happenings of life as SUBJECTS in the school called LIFE and I make sure I LEARN everything I need to pass the EXAM called PURPOSE.
Meanwhile, The Holy Spirit has been a companion and great source of inspiration in those times.

My call to you today is that, you don't just see the negativity in that ordeal that is or looks negative, look at the brighter side of it, learn all you can from it cause you need those lessons learnt to pass the other tests that comes your way.

I rest my case.

My Thoughts.
Ala O. Wilcox

MOVE

I can be better than this, the question is how? This question has been perturbing my mind for a while now and I know it's been same for some of you out there especially as you've not been able to meet up all your goals for the year and it's already coming to an end.

We can do this! Yes we can.

There is no point in pretending it’s going to be easy.
But, we also know we are awesome and amazing at taking on difficult tasks—and we can just go for it!
I know there are things you want to change about yourself and in your life. Some of these feel impossible. “This is just the way I am,” we often say to ourselves and our friends.
But is this true? I don’t think so. None of us are always one way—or we don’t have to be. You are always changing!
Every day you get older and experience new things in your inner and outer-environment. Change is happening constantly. The question is: can you direct this change? Can you participate fully in your life and choose what is being strengthened and what is being weakened?

If we don’t make any attempt to change the parts of our lives we aren’t satisfied with—they simply won’t change.
If you do nothing…you will get nothing.
Nothing changes the first time we try. Persistence is needed. Persistence is necessary. Persistence is self-love being manifested into reality.

Are you ever going to be able to change? Will you ever have the body, love-life, career, business, relationship, family you want? I really don’t know.
But, I know you won’t have them if you don’t try. And, I hope you try. Because what the world needs for its healing is people working toward their own healing.

Yes, it  is hard—but you can do it. You just need to start.
I rest my case.

My Thoughts
Ala O. Wilcox