THE INEVITABLE

Talking about people is inevitable. Whether you like it or not, you would have talked about someone without planning to but it might happen as a result of wanting to make a point, an argument of what is said to be true or untrue, or an example. The issue is not talking, it's why and how you are talking about them.
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So someone comes to me and tries to say or says something ill about another person, I always ask, what if the story is not as you heard or the supposed person has a reason or has done what he/she did for a reason that can’t be explained? Usually, when I come from this angle, the storyteller is thrown off balance and the topic is changed after a lesson would have been taught.

Another angle I come from is, asking questions that ought to lead me to the source of the story. The storyteller gets uncomfortable and withdraws. I also ask for the moral of the story so that I understand why I was told the story in the first place. Hehehehe! That’s very uncomfortable, right?

No matter your belief, colour, tribe, status, etc. talk you didn’t request for will come. How you sieve, react to, accept and reply the message makes it gossip.

It is very important to correct gossip with wisdom and love because the only way to change the world is to first be the change.

Imagine 50% of the people they go to talk to make them question their stories, it will definitely carry out a reboot in their system without their knowledge and will, in turn, help them to subside gossiping.

Talk is inevitable, but the inevitable could be an instrument of a transformation.
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